We’ve all been there. Life just gets in the way and pretty soon both of you are so focused on getting the kids from school to bed, that you have no energy for anything else. As a parent of two young kids and a wife, I know I have to be mindful of putting effort into my relationship with my partner on a daily basis. Here are six little things you and your partner can incorporate into your weekday that take 30 minutes or less.
1. Don’t Forget To Flirt
Don’t let the last sexy thing you say be “get tampons on your way home.” Nothing like a little flirting to remind you that you aren’t just a parent. You never stop pursuing each other.
2. Text Or Call During The Day
Before you get the wrong idea, I don’t mean crazy person calling incessantly, but shooting the other person a little message or call just to let them know you’re thinking about them. This isn’t meant as a way to keep track of your partner, and this is not the time to have those hard conversations that might get heated. You don’t need to start drama while you or your partner are at work. Keep it light and happy.
3. 20-30 Minute Activity Together
Do something together if you can find the time. It could be something like cooking dinner together or cleaning up together. Whatever it is, be intentional about doing it together.
4. Veg-Out Together
Do something mindless together, maybe have a favorite show together. Just be sure that if you are playing on your phone, you’re doing it together and not separately. This is about sharing something.
5. 5 Minutes of Cuddling
We’re all exhausted at the end of the day. Cuddling for just a few minutes takes very little effort, but has a great impact on the both of you. You can find 5 minutes to cuddle, whether it’s when you lay down at night or before you get up in the morning. This simple physical connection will remind you that you’re in this together.
6. Go To Bed Together
I always heard that this was important, and I didn’t realize how right that was until we started doing this. I know this isn’t possible for some, but if you can end your day together, this is good for the relationship.
Whatever you choose to do as a couple to build your intimacy, let it be intentional. Don’t allow yourselves to get stuck in a co-worker or roommate relationship. Remember that intimacy is a habit that needs to be practiced. This is hard work, but the rewards are amazing.
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